According to scientists there’s a direct link between long-term verbal abuse and anxiety issues as all the accumulated stress and trauma in a person’s lifetime can lead to a number of mental disorders, including anxiety.
Devon MacDermott, a psychologist that specializes in trauma and relationships claims that chronic verbal abuse can cause the victim of that abuse serious emotional harm. Most often the abuse comes from a close family member, a parent, a partner or a close friend which makes matters even worse. Verbal abuse such as yelling, treating someone with disrespect, insulting them and so on can harm health and in many cases it has even more dire consequences than physical abuse, even though the signs are invisible to the naked eye.
Verbal Abuse is the Worst Kind of Abuse
What does verbal abuse actually means? Well it encompasses a wide range of behaviors, from mild to severe, but all types carry serious consequences for the victim. It’s when the abuser uses undermining language to make his victim feel insecure, to deprive him or her of dignity through humiliation and insults, repeatedly and often quite suddenly, without any cause or reason.
Verbal abuse can leave behind a profound and serious psychological scars, which even though may not be visible as the scars from physical abuse, the damage caused to the victim can even be worse. The victims of this abuse often keep this to themselves as their dignity is attacked and which leaves them stressed, with lack of motivation, inability to focus and often leads to depression and anxiety issues.
Verbal abuse is more or less the same as emotional abuse, as both types of abuse attack a person on an emotional level, leading to self-esteem and confidence problems in the victim. If the abuse starts from a young age and lasts well into the victim’s adulthood it will lead to a number of health problems later in life.
Short-Term Verbal Abuse leads to:
- Low self-esteem
- Lack of enthusiasm
- Difficulties making decisions
Long-Term Verbal Abuse leads to:
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Chronic pain
- Eating disorders
- Digestive problems
- Suicidal thoughts
If a loved one shows the signs of verbal abuse you should try and talk to them and help them in whatever way you can, as victims of verbal abuse will never seek for help on their own.
Verbal Abuse Signs:
- The majority of verbal abuse cases are within a closed environment, most often home or school
- The abuser often uses name-calling to manipulate the victim
- The victim is always to blame for everything that happens, no exceptions
- The victim’s hobbies, interests and affiliations are attacked so that he or she feels they’re simply not good enough in anything they do
- Nothing the victim does is good enough, no matter how successful or hard working he or she is.
- The abuser is always right about everything and in every situation They never admit their mistakes nor apologize for their actions.
- When the victim is happy the abuser simply loses control. They gain back their control once they’ve succeeded in making the victim feel down again.
- The victim tends to start isolating themselves, they avoid socialization and shy away from people as they start to experience self-esteem issues that makes them anxious around other people.
MacDermott also stresses out that the verbal abuse doesn’t necessarily mean the abuser is a bad person. It’s just a sign that the abuser himself suffers from some type of mental health problem, substance abuse issues or other underlying problem that causes them to act this way.
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